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‘Mommy Hates You Better!’ – Feminists And Their Mothers

23 August 2015 @ 19:25

Many of us often say that Feminists have ‘Daddy Issues’ but Stacy McCain may, I think, be on to something here:

…Having spent more than a year researching radical feminism [BOB: How he’s kept his Sanity while doing so, I’ll never know], however, I always point out that many feminists have even worse “Mommy issues.”

Bob in his office.

Bob in his office.

You discern this, for example, in Andrea Dworkin’s account of her own youth. She didn’t much seem to mind her father, who worked very hard to support their family, but expressed contempt for her mother. It is easy to find similar expressions of anti-maternal resentments in the autobiographical writings of other feminists. Either the mother is presented as a pathetic figure — weak, ineffective, dominated or brutalized by the father — or else the mother is domineering and manipulative, trying to force her rebellious daughter to comply with a socially approved gender role that the young feminist rejects. From the daughter’s perspective, the mother’s life is unworthy. She rejects her mother as role model, and this refusal to emulate her mother becomes the emotional fuel of the daughter’s feminist politics.

Grant that there are mothers who are also feminists. Yet the more closely you pay attention to the feminist movement, the more you notice how this anti-maternal sentiment provides so much of the energy of activists….


Please do take the time to click here and read Stacy’s full post.

  1. 25 August 2015 @ 21:54 21:54

    Well, I had both mommy issues AND daddy issues, which is not surprising for a girl with an angry, abusive father and a timid, passive mother… not to mention a string of disastrous relationships with abusive boyfriends… so it’s no wonder I succumbed to feminism in my late teens. But, doggone it, a girl just gets exhausted with being angry and outraged all the time. Feminism is just too damn much work, and no fun at all. It’s no wonder most young women these days want nothing to do with it.

  2. 28 August 2015 @ 05:32 05:32

    Time* has dimmed the memory but ! recall Germaine Greer saying something that amused me about her ‘mummy issues’. Something like: ‘Daddy’ is a childish la-la word, but ‘Mother’ can be said through gritted teeth.
    *Since it’s Germaine Herself, my memory failure is probably less about time and more about a healthy instinct for self-preservation.


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